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APiD Ep. 055 | What Do You Want?

A Path to Purpose and Fulfillment, with Chris Slota

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What do you want?

It's a simple enough question at face value, but it can be far from easy to answer. Many of us have never truly tried to answer it. Many of us have never been aware that it was important to do so. And many of us are a lot better at knowing what we DON'T want.

Failing to answer this question can lead to surprisingly harmful consequences--but answering it can put us on a path to unprecedented purpose and fulfillment.

Don't just take my word for it, though.

In this episode, my guest, Chris Slota, gives us unfiltered access to the remarkable personal transformation he's experienced over the past couple of years--a transformation he owes in large part to his determination to begin figuring out what he wants in life.

Listening back to our conversation, I was amazed to hear how many other timeless principles for living a life of purpose and fulfillment are embedded in Chris' story, too. This episode is a veritable cornucopia of practical wisdom for all of us.

Introducing Chris Slota

I met Chris and his wife, Veronica, at a dinner party almost three years ago. Not long after that, Chris became a member of one of my Graveyard Groups. Chris shares more about that whole progression and its significance in the conversation that you're about to hear.

Chris hails originally from Ohio, but he's called our little mountain town of Steamboat Springs home since 2008, and like most of us here in Steamboat, he's never looked back.

Highlights from this Episode

Here are a few of the key points and themes from this conversation:

  • The importance of knowing what you do want instead of simply what you don’t want: “It’s hard to walk a path of places you don’t want to go.”

  • How the Victim mentality gets in the way of knowing what you want

  • To see, you have to open your eyes: How “opening his eyes” allowed Chris to see opportunities he wanted to pursue.

  • How Chris opened his eyes (you can do it, too!)

  • Finding your “why”

  • Staying focused on the “What” more than the “How”

  • Choosing your stress

A handful of bullets can’t begin to do justice to the depth of this conversation and its value for any of us wanting to find a new way forward. This episode is practically a how-to. Tune in to the full episode for the full effect.

Making it Matter in YOUR Life

An overarching theme in Chris' story is personal responsibility. Chris assumed more complete responsibility for himself by securing resources to help him find an even better way forward when he realized that his current situation wasn't satisfactory. In Chris' case, The Graveyard Group became a key ingredient in his recipe for transformation. That one simple step--proactively investing in himself with a small group of other men--paved the way for all that was to come. It created the fertile soil out of which pivotal insights would emerge--especially his awareness that he was much better at knowing what he DIDN't want than what he DID want. Those insights led to concrete action in the real world. And those actions created transformation.

Insight + Action = Transformation.

Pause for a moment and ask yourself: Where in my life am I more of a passive bystander than an active participant? Where am I failing to take complete responsibility for myself?

Whatever you come up with...Are you willing to take a page out of Chris' playbook, and do something about it?

Tomorrow never comes, folks; there's only Today. What are you waiting for?

Remember: You ARE going to die. But you’re not dead yet. So get after it!

Learn More about The Graveyard Group

To learn more about The Graveyard Group, visit, message me on on Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn, or email me.

I’m so glad you tuned in today. Don’t forget to follow this show, and I’ll see you next time on Andrew Petty is Dying.

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