Ep. 074 | From Pain to Purpose
Finding What Matters, With Alison Zimmerman
On Mother's Day 2020, with COVID beginning its inexorable march around the globe, Alison Zimmerman got the news that her dad was being rushed into emergency brain surgery after an ER visit for a headache took a dramatic turn. Her dad survived the surgery to wake up to no peripheral vision, short-term memory loss, disorientation in time and space, and a terminal glioblastoma diagnosis.
Alison swung into action right away, first by being there for her dad's initial recovery from surgery and then by relocating indefinitely from her home here in Steamboat Springs to be with her dad for the duration of his cancer battle. A battle that included COVID-induced isolation in the hospital and being treated by medical staff in hazmat suits, two months' recovery from surgery, aggressive radiation and chemo treatments, and a Gran Mal seizure that nearly killed him.
After about a year of fighting the cancer, an MRI revealed that the tumor was growing. The medical community discontinued treatment, and Alison cared for her dad until his death in March 2022, just 10 months ago as of this recording.
In this episode, Alison digs deep to share how the crucible of suffering and loss that she endured with her dad is changing her. So listen closely.
Alison has grappled with Death and returned, bearing hard-won gifts of clarity and wisdom for all of us. How can her experience with Death change how you live?
Meet Alison Zimmerman
Alison is a creative at heart and a veteran of the hospitality industry who specializes in curated experiences and event design, from 1-1 partnerships to festivals. Her company, Wise Aspirations, creates containers that inspire expression, expansion, collaboration, and healing. As you'll hear, her experience with her dad's death has focused her understanding of her purpose in the world and what matters most more sharply than ever before.
Highlights From the Conversation
What matters more to Alison now after her ordeal with her dad
What matters less to Alison now after her ordeal with her dad
The everyday utility of contemplating your and your loved ones’ deaths
How suffering leads us to serve
Emotional expression as strength
The important of connection to our Legacy
How Pain can reveal our Purpose
How Pain helps us overcome our Ego
The importance of facing the Truth
Making It Matter in Your Life
What stuck with you from Alison's Story? Pause for a few moments. Allow your mind to quiet down and your heart to bring to the surface the one or two things from this conversation that are especially for you. As Alison exhorted us, "don't turn your head away from the Truth." Whatever your heart whispers to you in response to this episode, even if it's unpleasant or unwelcome, don't turn away from it. Instead, summon the courage to acknowledge it. Then, write it down so it becomes just a bit more real. Do that right now.
Now...What's one thing, no matter how small, that you are willing and able to do to put one of your Insights into Action? Insight + Action = Transformation. By when will you do it?
Let Alison's story change yours--let the Mortality Mindset change you--before a crisis of your own makes it too late.
Remember: You are going to die. But you’re not dead yet. So get after it!
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